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Sexting: how to get him, her or you off with your flying fingers of flirtation.
I know you’ve done it, don’t even try to deny it. Even if you’re married you’ve probably attempted it a time or two with the hubby or wife. Really, who amongst us can honestly say we’ve never sent a picture of our erect staff of steed, attempted a quick up the skirt snap of our haynanernaner or haven’t typed a come on, come forth, “I’m coming, now” or two? In this day and age, we are using our cell phones, which are now actually our portable computers, for all kinds of communicating. And when it comes to communicating we all know what so many adults really like to communicate about!
Be warned though from texting/tweeting and twatting have come many a cautionary tale. Plenty of politicians and celebrities have been caught sending naughty photos and messages, have had a Twitter feed hacked. Intercepted tweets, cell phone snaps and email convos have brought many a married person, well known and not, heartache, break-ups or to humiliating public apologizing. It used to be we’d gather round the ole VCR to catch the escapades of a Tommy Lee and Pamela or were downloading snippets of Paris Hilton displaying her ‘talents’, now everyone sneaks a peak at stolen cell phone mirror pictures of Scarlett, Jessica and Snookie. I know you’re not as popular as Tiger Woods, but keep in mind, that whatever you’re sending to whomever, it could be read and seen by others, kept for posterity, (or blackmail), and depending on your cell phone camera’s strength might not even look all that great. Then again, for men this might be the way to go as body parts can look mighty big when seen in the cramped space of a cell phone screen.
What follows is a primer on when, why, should you or shouldn’t you get into the all too popular naughty texting phenomena. What to look out for when ‘sexting’ and the merits of one kind of a message over another. Proceed at your own risk, consider a stylist, check your pixels. Here we go…
To snap and send…or not to, that is the question
The time to take a naughty picture and send it to the new date is a modern-day quandary akin to, when should I move in to kiss her or how many dates do we go on until I let him get under my poodle skirt? For some the dirty text is simple flirting, to others it comes well after partners have been intimate. Sending a naughty picture? That could come before, during or after little suggestions, threats and statements. In fact, I’m not even sure technically when texting becomes ‘sexting’ (it’s for each person to define his or her own terms) but I feel it’s more an ‘I know it when I’m doing it’ kind of a thing.
And really, lots of people are doing it, no matter what they are calling it.
I do recommend testing the waters here first though…especially with someone you are just getting to know. Since texting is now a legitimately recognized form of communication, some would say more than even talking on our phones is presently, it’s not difficult to interject something salacious during a normal round of “How are yous?,” “How was your days?” “Are you free anytime this weekends?” Certainly if you’re even the slightest bit witty and texting with someone who shares an attraction for and with you, you could slip-in even the most benign salacious comment. If that opening salvo lands wide though, if you don’t get anything even slightly flirty back, it’s best not to belabor the point. Please, PLEASE never ask: “Hey, did you get that message I sent trying desperately to get some naughty banter going on between us?” That just isn’t cool. Let sleeping dogs snore. Try again another day. Your intended might not be in the mood at that second, might have actually not even noticed your suddenly sexy detour off the conversational path, or might not like texting ‘that way’. They might be uncomfortable or shy, knowing that flirty texting could lead to sexting with whole galleries of video being sent their way, and worse still, expected in return. Sure, lots of people prefer, even flourish across cyber space. Lots of us enjoy typing our passing comments, sending pictures and videos of body parts we’re not ready to show in person just yet, performing acts we regard as personal solo porn. But others of us just don’t like the idea of putting anything sexual ‘out there’.
Second to feeling-out your partner on the whole sexting/pic/video sending question, maybe it’s a good idea to kind of, even just a little, slightly…GET TO KNOW THIS PERSON YOU ARE SENDING DIRTY STUFF TO! Really, think about this. I know you can’t completely know this new man or woman you have just come to date but please, if you two are getting into the whole sexting arena than at least send like messages back and forth. Sure, ladies technically have more naughty Area 51’s then men and yes, one of you is going to have to start, so technically one person puts ‘it out there’ before the other. But if you’re not receiving pictures, text, video in return then you run the risk of being the only one sexting and seeing your pictures used as someone’s laptop screen saver…or worse. If you’re an exhibitionist of course, disregard all of the above and go get the latest greatest cell phone with camera you can. But might I suggest spending some time with someone you start to send naughty stuff to or at least have equal content risk back and forth. The MMS is as important these days as was your VCR of old.
Third: if you don’t like it, don’t send it. Really, if you think this body part is not as good as that one, even if your partner requests a picture of that other one, don’t send a picture of it. If you’re not comfortable typing back specific scenarios don’t even try. They’ll come off stunted and forced. What’s worse, if you play at something you know nothing about, do not want to try or are repulsed by then it will be double dog damn hard backing off those suggestions sent the next time your text partner sees you in person.
And that reminds me. Please, everybody remember, as with porn, sexting is not real life. What’s said or shown across our cell phones, in email, etc. should not be taken as ‘real’. Yes, that might be your actual body part and yes, someone might very well want to dress-up like Captain Jack Sparrow and plunder your timbers as text you about, but this is play here, an extension of our flirting prowess, fantasy in many instances. Don’t ever hold anyone to what they say, show or do across a text.
Lastly, really consider, truly think it out whether or not you should show your face when sending a naughty picture. Simply put, any naked part you show with a smile, raising an eyebrow knowingly while you’re standing facing a mirror taking a pic of your penis, angling your phone just right for a quick nipple licking shot, (be you breast-y and coordinated enough), includes the one identifying factor you can’t readily dismiss. Think well on sending bare naughty body part pics where you can see your face as well.
Are you intexticated?
We’ve all seen, or might be ourselves, people addicted to texting. Plenty of us have either been the partner of or have at least been close enough to couples in a restaurant eating their meal looking down at their respective cell phones never once raising their chin to regard the person they are sitting with. These folks are unfortunately intexticated and presently there seems no 12 step program to help them out of their addiction. These are people who not only come to regard their time spent on their phone communicating as truly communicating, but often times come to prefer this method than talking or hanging-out with their friends, lovers and family. The same is true for those ‘socializing’ on Facebook in lieu of meeting people in person. Is it any wonder these people might take to texting/sexting as zealously as they do, forgoing actual intimate interaction? For those intexticated it’s no real jump to preferring online mutual masturbatory meet-ups and sexting round-Robins. For those intexticated an in the flesh, one on one with another person is not even really ever considered. Or if it happens, not the kind of a relationships these kinds of people can sustain.
Yes, it seems extreme. For most of us sexting, email, sending a ten second video clip of ourselves doing this or that is a prelude, foreplay, the wish of what we want to get into when we see the receiver of our message. But rest assured, there are plenty of people enjoying what they would define as a perfectly fulfilling romantic relationship only ever across cyber space. Or for some, the more access they have to sitting at home typing, sending and not having to leave their home, the better the relationship gets.
Sexting though usually starts at least from meeting someone in person, at least on one occasion. Does this decrease the chances of a relationship falling into one where the two people only ever send messages, pics, video and Facebook missives? I don’t rightly know. But at least if you meet someone first, ‘exchange digits’ then, you will probably be more apt to wonder when you might see that person again, especially if things are getting all hot and heavy across your texting. If suddenly you find all you ever seem to get are pictures, video or little naughty messages or are only ever sending the same, and there are never any further plans made to meet your paramour, from him, her our you, then you and/or your sexting partner might very well be intexticated.
A final word about pictures verses video
No matter the magnification, pixel strength and even if your phone allows for panorama shots, there is just so much you are going to get from a picture or video. Nothing ever beats seeing, and being able to touch, lick and knead the real thing in person. So lift a boob, take a video from over your shoulder, shave/oil/and coax to maximum length and harness, still in the end just know no amount of picture taking or video videoing will ever beat the real thing.
But lots of what sexting is about is adding a little visual to the words. For many of us it is simply a tease until we see someone again, maybe a little wish fulfillment, possibly a visual promise of the future. And when we get beyond the words, as so many sexy texters find themselves doing, (and here is where many begin to call it sexting), we have two options: video or ‘pic’.
A picture has its own specific appeal, representing as it does a captured moment in time beyond just what the picture might be of. Send a shot of a body part just about being exposed and the receiver can dream of the next second when maybe you did/do actually expose it. Angle, lift and hold your breath and you can enhance a piece of you so it looks all gym toned porno perfect. Sending a dirty pic can tease the receiver with questions like, did you just then think of taking that picture and on a whim do so, or was this something you had been planning?
The answer to both questions if fun-filled with possibility.
Then there is video.
As most of our phones have a camera for taking snap shots, most have video capacity as well…to watch it as well as create. In some cases the amount of time you can spend videoing yourself is a long one. We can stage some very naughty scenes indeed, in real time, to a lover or even just a buddy. With this option, far and away a whole ‘nother step from simply naughty snap shots, a universe from sending the obligatory “what are you wearing” you could really get those cell phones sweating.
So, does sexting increase/decrease our chance of getting laid?
In the end all this dirty finger tip typing really is about trying to engage a person we are interested in or they us, in you know what. Whether we sip lemonade on the porch swing in full view of our folks, grin wide while sharing a milkshake with our new date or are standing with our booty to the mirror poising our phone on our shoulder for a shot. it all comes down to the same thing. We want to make a connection, spark, reciprocate, assure and further an attraction. We want to eventually, if there be a will and the time, maybe get together with the person we are flirting with no matter how we are flirting, and see if all the words, video, pictures and implications are really worth our time and pixels.
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How to become acquainted with the old fashioned art of spanking
Lay Your Hands On Me…Please
There comes a time in all our relationships when we simply have to spank our partner or have him or her spank us. Not out of anger, (please!), but in a slightly kinky, totally sexual, watered-down BDSM way. I could expound on the merits of role-playing the librarian seeking ‘payment’ on overdue library books. The headmaster/mistress with the naughty pupil or the breadwinner coming home to find the housework not done to a satisfactory state. It doesn’t matter how you get your partner over your knee, just do it. The dom-sub rush will put your panties in a twist, assuming you’re still wearing them.
Doggie position is perfect for a pat on the bum. An unexpected addition to the lust and thrust. The truly noninvasive love tap can add new dimensions to the sex act. Looking to get your man or woman’s attention quickly? To spice it up with a cheeky nudge in a naughty direction? Used correctly a spank can be great for what ails us. It’s also a wonderful way to dip ones’ toesies into something kinky while not having to buy the strap-on and nipple clamps of death. It gets the endorphins rushing with a minimum amount of pain and requires no plastic sheets. It doesn’t have to see us feeding that habit of having to dress in that nun’s outfit every time, (yes, I know, I should be spanked myself for that pun, but I couldn’t resist). A spanking is how dominant/submission games begin for some couples. A spanking is the totality many couples get into when it comes to kink. It can reassure a couple that skipping down a non-vanilla sexual path might be something they want to try. On the other hand it might once and for all cement in another couple’s minds that even a tap on the ass is too much kink and pain for their particular tastes.
But how do we even introduce the idea of spanking to our lover. Or asking our lover to spank us? Techniques, positioning, patter, all might come later, but let’s take the first step…
Getting the spanking started
The idea of a spanking has crept into your bedroom. You’ve been watching porn, talking to friends or seen it while innocently surfing the web….seriously….I’m sure it was innocent. Anyway you have to come up with a grand plan for introducing a little kink into your love lives. But how? You don’t want to shock, offend or even worse, be rejected and told you are filthy, sick or perverted. A cold chill runs up your spine. How to get what you want with no risk of rejection? Let’s explore the possibility looking up from the bottom since this is where all the action will be focused.
This is not such an easy position to be in. There’s me with another pun….sorry….not. Whether it be your first time wanting/trying or you have done so before and want to get your present lover to swat you it’s best easing in revealing this desire. Drop some hints during pillow talk. Mention your past, gently of course, including what you’ve tried before and might want to again. Yes, we can splay ourselves across our lover’s lap. Wiggle our fleshy cheeks at them after a shower. But don’t be disappointed if your guy or gal doesn’t get the hint. This is especially true for hetero couples when the man wants to play the sub. ‘Traditional’ male:female roles often negate even the idea, let alone the action, of a man being taken in hand by his lady. Then again, the very fact that a traditional role is spun on its ear, (or backside as the case is here), could indeed fuel quite the lovely spanking scenario.
It’s such a shame. For those of us who desperately want a spanking, just admitting we do sometimes kills the fantasy outright. Erring on the side of conservatism seems the best move so as not to ruin the romantic scenario we’ve spent all night conjuring. If only it was like in the pornos. So much more exciting is the thought of our date/lover/friend/auntie just taking it into their own head that we ‘deserve’ that swat on the butt cheeks we have so ached for and find we can’t do a thing about it?
Phew, did somebody just turn the heat on in here, or is it me?
Unfortunately though, seeing how this in no way resembles reality between couples spanking for the first time…you’re going to have to tell your date/lover/friend/college professor what exactly you need and why. And that ‘why’ might trip you up a bit.
Only ever answer that question if you feel your would-be spanker might not commence unless you answer. And even then you, yourself, might not know exactly why you want to be hit hard across your bare arse. The need to push your pelvis into the strong, leather clad knee of your lover while they scold and smack…but I digress. Many of us who want a spanking haven’t explored the why of it all so much. And this isn’t necessary. We’re just aroused by the idea of being hit hard across our naked thighs. So when asked ‘why’ you might not have a thoroughly thought out and justifiable reason to give. Both spanker and spankee should be prepared for that and not let it stop the proceedings.
Wanting to be the spanker can be just as tricky. First of all, if your lover has never been spanked, had no idea that this type of activity was on your sexual menu and has never seen you as the aggressor, in anyway, they might be confused. Wanting to know why this sudden shift in personality. They might pepper you with questions like, ‘Boy George, do you really want to hurt me?’… ‘Is this spanking idea some revenge for something I did way back when?’… ‘How could swatting my arse possibly turn you on?’…or… ‘Why hadn’t you mentioned this before?’
I’m afraid if you are the one prompting spanking your lover you’re probably not only going to have to go out and buy a new wooden spoon but have a pretty damn good reason why you want to use it on them. Explaining the ‘why’, even if in fact your lover wants to be spanked, has fantasized over it many a year and is so damn relieved you had the guts to bring it to light, will go a long way in seeing a spanking become reality. Creating the all-important environment/scene for the trusting and exchanging of any new idea or activity.
The safe spanking ‘place’
It is as much an actual place for the spanking as a state of mind. A safe spanking ‘place’ is about implements used, role-play to be enacted and communication to be exchanged, as it is about a room in your house for your kinky play. What’s fun for so many spanking aficionados, and you might truly become one with your partner over time, is that for many spanking it’s as much about the action as it is about all the other details. You might come to see that you use the same low step stool to get you or your partner over every time you get into your spanking game as much as walk to a certain room to enact your kink. The point is, now that you’ve admitted to wanting to be spanked or spank, or your lover has done, you need to create a safe spanking ‘place’.
You might come to specify a particular room in your house, a space in the corner of the bedroom, even a certain night of the week for the spanking to occur. This builds sweet anticipation as much as keeps your kink where it might very well need to stay. Many couples who engage in even the simplest dominant/submission play do not want it spilling over anywhere close to their ‘real’ life…while others certainly do. It’s up to you and your lover to see how this all plays out. But at first consider a purposeful space to play in, or even a chair to sit in, as much as specific outfits, roles to play and so forth. How’s the temperature considering you might not be wearing much. Are you going to freeze or sweat to death? Have you considered the pressure on certain body parts in particular positions for long periods of time? How’s the sound proofing? Proximity to children or neighbours? Mood lighting? Music. Candles. Really make an effort to get the mix right in regards to whatever theme you’re looking for.
The things you fill your ‘safe place’ with are just as important as where your safe place is. Yes, I know it kills the fun spontaneity of spanking to talk about it too much. But really one shouldn’t jump blindly into their first foray of spanking, (even if they have done it before), with a new spanker/spankee. Start gingerly and expand the play as you both see fit. Pick out a switch when hiking. By all means use those wooden spoons for more than just stirring the sauce. The hair brush or flip flop have more than one use. But be sure to discuss, or at least test out, each implement you want to introduce in your spanking scene. Determine as best you can your or your partner’s pain level with your hand first. Know that this can change from day to day or from mood to mood. Your pain threshold may not be identical to your lovers. Don’t chastise them or yourself for it. Adjust, accommodate, empathise, enjoy. For some people the erotic nature of a spanking is less the pain they give or take but all the other factors of spanking such as clothes worn, roles played, positions and places.
Listen hard enough to notice the difference between when a ‘no’ means no or when it simply means ‘oh no, I couldn’t possibly take that any harder’. It’s always a good idea to introduce into your play what is called a ‘safe word’ in S&M parlance. This could be one word or phrase, something well beyond the pale of what you might ever say during your romp that would see a total stoppage to all action. Believe me, even a good old fashioned over-the-knee spanking, (OTK spankings as they are known), can get rather intense and cause pain. Then again some spankers and spankees both might find that intensity is exactly what they want and have consented to. We really can’t determine by our partner’s cries or tears or our very own when too much is really too much.
Agree on a safe word, and use it when applicable. I like ‘bananas’. It has to be easy to remember, be heard and not a word that would usually be used in a spanking context.
Lastly, in creating that safe place, you must take into account all other details you are bringing in or want for the spanking. Are specific clothes important to your fantasy/scenario? Do you want to spank or be spanked in some uniform or in clothes specifically opposite to your gender? Spanking time can be rather interesting fantasy play, why not explore lots of the naughty options you have? Might you want to act the contrite school girl, (whether you’re male or female), and dress accordingly? Do you have a script you want to recite while being bent across or bending your lover across a knee? Might you want to adopt a persona wholly not your own or an extension of an attitude you do not get to explore all that often. All this leads to one of the biggest concepts when spanking and one I feel needs its own capitalized bold face type heading…
Spanking, like all other BDSM pursuits, actually anything even slightly off the vanilla path of sexual exploration for that matter, could engage partners in a little role-play. In fact, in many instances, partners do not engage in anything kinky unless or until they are role-playing. What is this role-playing you might ask? Isn’t it enough I enjoy me some Al Pacino/Kate Hudson movies? And no, I don’t know or care of they ever appeared in the same movie! Need I now have to worry that I too need go to acting classes and gain some thespian acumen to enjoy a good spanking from time to time?
Role-play, simply put as it applies to here, is adopting the manner, clothes, or even speech of another person not you. Many a sexual partner enjoys stepping free of the confines of their everyday personas; their dress, worries, even at times their gender, to ‘play’ sexual games. When it comes to BDSM gaming, roles most of us do not fall into in our everyday existences, adopting a persona or even putting on a frilly hat often helps facilitate attitudes, manner of speech, even dressing-up to be the dom or the sub. Get it? You might find it very freeing indeed to dress in frilly petticoats and Mary Jane shoes to enjoy your spanking. Or wearing a mask for example to be more deeply into the mindset of a spanker. Dressing, acting/speaking as a doctor might prompt you to act out some dominant examinations on your ‘patient’. Role-playing is as common in sexual play as avoiding the wet spot. Try it on, you might like how it fits. Then again, you might want your spanking to be about…
The real, the everyday, the true comeuppance
Ok, we’re back to the why. It doesn’t have to be a huge reason. Or even one that ‘deserves’ a slap to the butt. I’ve never known a spanking I didn’t like that wasn’t based in some sort of reality. Beyond the fact that you or your partner wanted to give or receive. I hope you’ve figured out that all sexy spankings are consensual playing. I’m talking about fashioning a cute reason for the spanking that is based on the here and now.
Has your guy or girl been a brat? Left the milk out of the fridge? Been a hog with the remote? Then use that to take them cross your knee for a few. Is it their birthday? Even better? Do you play the dominant, amassing demerits for your slave’s misdemeanors during the week? Sure, use those role-play moments as I mentioned before. That stuff can be real within the confines of who and what you play. But see if you might weave your everyday life into your fantasy.
But be careful here. It’s up to you how far you let your real life be affected by your fantasy…and vice versa. Say for instance you’re a man who regularly submits to belt whippings from his wife. Whippings you very much crave and the wife enjoys as well. Do you then carry your submission into your non-sexual everyday dealings in your relationship? You might come to find that the dominant or submissive pose you adopt when getting spanked is one you want to continue well into your life. But your partner might not want to adopt their counter pose that way. What if you find that the very reason for being dominant or submissive in the bedroom, is that you act the opposite outside of it? When relying on our everyday lives to colour good or bad our fantasy sex play we can often blur the line between the real and the fantasy.
And lastly, the nuts and bolts of…
I’d bet the whole dairy and throw in the cows that if you are of a mindset for spanking you have a clear picture in that head of yours of the whole scenario. The positions you want to take or be taken in. What clothes to wear, implements to use, place(s) to conduct the spanking and real and/or imaginary reasons for it are all incredibly important. For spanking, we also have to factor in the where and what we get ourselves bent over that is so essential to good spanking fun.
Here is a brief rundown of some of the more popular spanking positions:
The classic over-the-knee position as I mentioned before. The spanker can sit on an armless chair, couch or edge of the bed and simply drape the spankee across their lap. This is especially arousing seeing as the person being spanked can grind their pelvis into the thigh/knee of the person spanking. For the spanker is a great target and view right below them. Best used implements for OTK are: hand, spoon, paddle or hairbrush. For me this is the most intimate form of spanking. To have my slave secured over my knee by my left arm around his waist while I stroke him with my right swing is pure Dom heaven.
Like the OTK but it gets the spanker out from under the action. Again, the spankee gets to enjoy a surface under them. Many a man and woman have been known to orgasm rubbing themselves across a hard table top while having their bottom ceremoniously swatted. Quite often better comfort and support results from being splayed fully across a surface instead of dangling off the side of someone’s knee. Since the spanker can stand back from the arse in question they have a full range of motion and can therefore wield instruments with a longer reach and handle. Best implements for being Bent Over Chair/Couch/Bed/Counter are: wooden spoon, belt, bath brush, switch, carpet beater, cane.
The severity of smacks you give or receive can increase when landed on a bent and taut surface. Also setting one’s sub or having to set one’s self dead center of a room, grabbing ankles and being bent naked can be quite the vulnerable position. On par with that classic feeling one gets with the OTK. As with Bent Over Chair/Couch/Bed/Counter many larger or longer implements can be used here but do be careful as the harder you hit someone simply bending without support the more likely they are to fall over forwards.
For the person being spanked lying down brings one’s pelvis into direct contact with whatever surface one is lying on. This will allow for some indiscriminate rubbing while being spanked…for some, this is the very best part of being spanked. Depending where exactly your sub is lying down-on a bed, a couch with a wall behind it-will determine how close you can get to spanking them. Therefore for Lying Down the best implements are: all…contingent upon how close you might get to the spankee.
This is a dastardly naughty position, (as is the one that follows). Here the spanker fits the spankee over them by having the spankee lie atop them in a vertical position. By placing your sub’s legs to the outside of your own as you sit under them, they literally have to spread their legs wide, pop their ass up and then dip their torso over your knees and calves facing down. Imagine you are about to lift their legs and use them as a wheelbarrow! This will create more than a slight tension to the spankee’s arms and probably not be a position either person will be able to manage for too long. But the benefits are enormous here for access to not only the ass but also all of the spankee’s naughty under parts. Like OTK this is quite the embarrassing intimate position. Helpless and exposed. Oooohhh the pleasant memories are washing over me now. Best ‘implement’ for Wheelbarrow: hand.
The spanker simply lays the spankee on his or her back and lifts their legs high, as if about to change their nappy. The upturned taut flanks are swatted this way. Another close-up position-but also an embarrassing one. Best ‘implements’ for Diaper: hand, brush.
The end about warming your end…
Remember even though this particular sexual play involves pain and some embarrassment it is, like all sex, supposed to be fun and arousing. You might think you want to give or take a spanking and find that once you do it’s just not for you. The reality was not as good as the fantasy. Or you might come to find you want the opposite of what you first thought. Perhaps you are a ‘switch’? Someone who likes to give and receive equally. Just make sure to always have fun. As with any sexual quest you attempt that all things are safe, sane and consensual between all partners at all times.
Now go forth and swat.
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